I've come to realize and really respect people going through the process ( and am envious of those I see who have already gone through it ..... there was a sweet, old, friendly Chinese man at customs yesterday talking with the guard and he mentioned his "green card") Getting that Green Card and/or eventually US citizenship, is ( often time consuming and expensive) work. So my deepest and most sincere congratulations to anyone reading this who might have just gotten that green card or citizenship.
I have been sending FB messages with my friend's sister's girlfriend - who has gone through the process ( although she moved here from Australia, so learning English was not a priority for her). She told me that she has a great immigration lawyer that we can use if and when the time comes. Lisa has a degree in Economics and she currently works for Land Rover in China. I feel like she has the discipline and motivation and energy to get a job here, it's just a matter of ( learning English) and finding one.
At this point I am really motivated and energized and excited to learn more about US Immigration and to do the footwork and "brain work" to help her from "this side".
It's interesting (and frustrating) to note that although gay marriage is now legal in several states, because it is not recognized at the FEDERAL level, a gay couple- one American, one foreigner- cannot get US citizenship for the foreigner through marriage ( like many heterosexual couples can, and do). So it has to be through your job sponsoring you.
I don't know what everything will look like in the next 2-3 years. All I know is that I want to help Lisa to eventually live and work permanently here in the US. I know that between now and then I want to live in Asia and to travel/learn/explore more of that side of the world. But I think ultimately we will come back to New York permanently at some point (?). Or maybe she will come visit me in Taiwan and we will get so comfortable there that she will not want to leave? ... I don't know. I just want her here. I want her in my life. That's all that I know for now. And I'm willing/excited to help to make that possible in any way that I can. "Wo Men Yichi Jaiyou" - we'll do it together.
Right now I feel very happy to have my "portal key" to keep me connected to my other "family" in China - not just Lisa, but my TA Metis, "Bella Jeh-Jeh", and Jenny and her family. I ALSO know that "Auntie Em" and "Uncle Henry" here are happy to have me home here for a bit.... and I'm happy to be here and to see them too :). It feels more like I've been away for two weeks as opposed to a year. I'm happy and excited to be "on this side" again now at this point. I also know that a year is truly not a very long time and I will "Return To Oz' very soon.
(hopefully avoiding any "Wheelers" and/or "evil headless women who keep a variety of heads with different hairstyles in their closets" the way most women keep their shoes, in the process!)